My ex-boyfriend tried to seduce my little sister

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you with tears in my eyes. I am a 25-year-old woman and I had a boyfriend who was living at my house, but I had to ask him to leave.

While he was living with me, he was pursuing my sister who is 18 years old. My sister is also living at my place.

My father is assisting me in paying the rent, so my sister has her own room, but she is not working. I told my father that he doesn't have to worry to give me anything else; just money for the rent.

My sister and I get along very well. In September, she will begin to attend college. My boyfriend, at the time, tried to become very friendly with my sister and she told me about it. He works for the government. When he started to get very friendly with my sister, she complained to me. I told her that he doesn't mean anything, but he started to offer her gifts and told her not to tell me.

When I asked him why he had to offer my sister gifts, he said he did not mean anything bad. I asked him if he was not satisfied with me; he said he was happy with me.

When he had his day off, my sister had to stay with friends until she knew I was at home before she came home. The relationship between this man and me became very unhealthy and stressful. So I had to protect my sister at all times.

Finally, I told this man that I did not trust him and although I needed a man in my life, I would prefer for him to leave and find another place. When I saw that he was not leaving, I told my father about the situation and one of my brothers brought my father to the house. They told my boyfriend that they were not leaving until he packed his belongings and leave.

He said it was my sister who told him that she loves him and he should find another place so that both of them could live together. The man was lying on my sister.

He packed his things and called a taxi and moved out. I was happy to see that he moved peacefully. If he had tried to hit me or my sister, my father and brother would have broken up his bones.

This is the second time I have had a broken relationship. This man did not bring anything to the house. Everything in this house belongs to me. I am still owing on my refrigerator and stove. When my sister was coming to live with me, I bought other things that she would need and they are paid for.

I thought he was an honourable man, but he is far from being trustworthy. Apart from buying me little gifts for birthday and Valentine's Day, I have not got anything from him. He does not even save. He used to borrow my car and when he was leaving, I made sure that I took from him my spare key and I also took the key to the house from him.

A few days after he left, he called and cried and asked me to take him back, and I told him that he should stay wherever he is. This man is two years older than I am. He had life too easy with me.

I have gotten to love my sister more because some sisters would have gotten involved with him. I have seen that happen before.

At present, I am dating another man, but I am so afraid and I will not live with him unless we are married.

A.W

Dear A.W.,

You mention the type of work this man does, but I deleted that so as not to embarrass the organisation. I must commend your sister for the stand that she took and for informing you that this man wanted to go to bed with her. She is a very intelligent young lady. I hope that she will do well in college.

And I also hope that this man with whom you have gone on dates might not disappoint you, but please bear in mind that going on dates with a man is to give you opportunities to get to know the person better.

If you find yourself liking him, get to know his background very well. Meet his relatives. Find out whether he is in debt and make sure you are not careless with yourself. You should know what I mean by that. Some guys are always eager to get under a woman's skirt soon after meeting them. And that is all I have to say.

Pastor