Heard my roommate and her boyfriend having sex

Dear Pastor

I have been reading your column since I was a teenager. I have learnt much from it.

I am 22 and sharing a room with a friend. I have been here for the past three months and everything was going well. But it seems as if I will have to move. I was looking for a place and I told her, so she suggested that I could live with her and we would split the rent. I said "That sounds good to me." The rent is $50,000 per month. I decided to go because I only have a bed. I do not have a stove or refrigerator. This young lady and I put money together and buy grocery, and we take turns with the cleaning. She is not very tidy, but we talked about that and she is improving. Whenever I have my shower, I clean the bathroom; she does not do that. This is only a one-bedroom place, but it can hold two beds, so I sleep on my own bed.

This girl has got involved with a man. She told me about him. She introduced him to me. He seems to be a good guy. I do not have a boyfriend. One evening the guy came to the house and brought chicken and chips and drinks. After a long time, I excused myself and left them alone. I went to bed but some noise woke me. When I woke up, this girl was having sex with her boyfriend. They were not even aware that they had woke me up. I could hear the sexy things that my girlfriend was saying to him. She even mentioned when she was about to climax. When they were finished, she told him that that was a good 'F'. He soon left. In the morning, I asked my roommate if her boyfriend couldn't take her to a hotel knowing that I am in the same room. I told her I was not sleeping and I heard everything and she said they both wanted sex. But she said I need not worry because they will not do it again while I am there.

Don't you think this girl disrespected me? I told her that I would have to leave because her boyfriend will want to come back again and have sex with her. She cannot understand why I want to leave. I have never seen two people having sex before and I am a virgin. I have sexual urges, and whenever I do, I go into the bathroom and masturbate under the shower. Nobody knows that is how I operate.

I don't want to leave because I don't have anything much. What do you suggest?

T.S.

Dear T.S.,

Your roommate has told you that she and her boyfriend will not have sex in the same room that you are sharing with her.

I believe she means it. They lost control of themselves. They probably thought that you are a very sound sleeper, so their sexy noise would not have woken you up. But they were wrong. Perhaps you should not leave yet. If they use the room in that manner another time, then you should find another place to go. Perhaps your girlfriend was embarrassed when you told her you heard everything.

Try and save some money and purchase a stove and a refrigerator, etc. Find a place you can afford. Don't put yourself in unnecessary debt, and try not to go and live in concubinage with a man.

Pastor