I traded sex for a hairdo

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 years old and I am pregnant. I am having a difficult time because I am not sure which of the guys I was talking to got me pregnant.

I had sex with both of them three days apart. I know that those who are going to read my letter would think that I am a careless girl. I was spending time with a friend and I was in need of some cash. Her brother came to the house and invited me out. I told him about my financial situation. I asked him if he could give me some money so that I could have my hair done, and he went to the ATM and withdrew $10,000. Then he said, "I can give you this money, but I wish for you to give me something." I asked him, "Like what?" He said, "You know that I am asking you for sex." I needed the money. He was driving a company van. He parked it at a very popular spot in St Catherine, pulled out the key and had sex with me in the van. Then he gave me the money. He did not use a condom.

I went to an event after I got my hair done. My boyfriend came up to see me and took me home that Sunday. My girlfriend told him that he could sleep over, so that we could leave early the following morning. She knew him as my boyfriend. We slept together and had sex. I missed my period, and I told my boyfriend that I am pregnant. He said that he pulled out, so he could not have got me pregnant. I know that he pulled out because his semen was all over my legs. I also told the guy who gave me the $10,000 that I am pregnant and the child could be his; he said I must give the child to my boyfriend.

I don't know what to do. I cannot tell my boyfriend that I had sex with this fellow, but I believe the baby is for my friend's brother. Pastor Dumas, what should I do?

H.P.

Dear H.P.,

You are a very careless young woman. You sold yourself for a hairdo. Why couldn't you have borrowed the money from your girlfriend until your boyfriend came for you?

This young man gave you the $10,000, but he told you before he gave it to you that he wanted sex from you, and you agreed to have sex with him. When your boyfriend came for you and slept over with you, you had sex with him, too, as if you were a regular prostitute. Now he is claiming that he did not get you pregnant because he did not discharge in you. When the baby is born, your boyfriend should insist that a paternity test be done to ascertain whether he is the father of the child. What a great embarrassment it would be if he is not the father.

I am not here to condemn you. You made a big mistake in life. But what is done cannot be undone. I can only wish that if this child that you are carrying belongs to the man who gave you the $10,000, your boyfriend will forgive you for your infidelity.

Pastor